For spouses nationwide, including in New York, divorce is likely to be a devastating experience. While many divorcing spouses are adamant not to give away power and maintain control of their own lives throughout the divorce proceedings, some just give up and allow others to control proceedings and make important decisions on their behalves. However, with experienced legal counsel, anybody can avoid being a victim in divorce.
Retaining the services of a divorce lawyer is not surrendering power, and it does not remove the client's control over his or her future. An attorney will provide guidance and support and provide the client with the knowledge required to handle the divorce in a manner that will not jeopardize his or her future. A divorcing spouse may learn that litigating a divorce may give the court the power of control and that there are alternative methods such as mediation to resolve issues.
Individuals may also learn not to be intimidated by controlling soon-to-be-ex-spouses who may use threats to gain control. Other areas that may rob a divorcing spouse of control during this emotional time include the failure to take proper care of him or herself, not realizing that compromised health can be detrimental. It is not uncommon for individuals to be extremely vulnerable during the divorce proceedings, and avoiding social events that might be emotionally taxing may not be a bad idea.
The bottom line is that every divorcing spouse in New York has the power to maintain control throughout the divorce proceedings and beyond. Doing it without the support of an experienced legal representative may not be so easy. An experienced attorney can protect a client's rights while also providing advice and guidance through the many unexpected pitfalls the client may encounter.
Source: The Huffington Post, "7 Surprising Ways You Are Giving Away Your Power in Divorce", Karen Covy, Oct. 23