Divorce is a business transaction. It may not seem like it right now, given the emotional turmoil you are experiencing and how distant and angry your soon-to-be ex-spouse is to you right now. Nevertheless, the process is geared to be an orderly transfer of assets so that people can move on their separate ways.
With that said, it is important to move into what some people call the “divorce” mindset. This post will provide some key tips in how this mindset can work for you.
Information is necessary to the process – There is little need to withhold information or prevent a party from accessing information that will be necessary in setting child support or spousal support. Judges do not look kindly upon parties who withhold information without a solid legal basis. Also hoarding information makes the process more expensive.
Be open to negotiation – Many spouses begin the process with unyielding, take no prisoners mindsets, only to find out how much it would actually cost to get what they want. Instead of preparing for battle at every step of the way, being open to negotiation may make the process easier.
You can get more stuff – Just ask anyone who has lost their house to a disaster (e.g. tornado, flood or fire). Things can always be replaced. Because of this, it may not be in your best interests to fight over everything that is subject to divorce. Indeed, you may be entitled to your fair share of the marital estate, but battling over assets that can be replaced may not be the best use of resources.